She never comes home in the evening . Only in the morning right before I go to work . She stopped picking him up from daycare & my providor can testify to that . I have 2 months in my calendar documented with the days she don’t come home & when she stays gone for 3-4 days at a time . The only reason she wants him is to get child support from me for him. I buy all of his food and clothes. I pay for his insurance.He has a savings account that she has never contributed to . She has another son that she ignored all his life that is currently in a correctional facility at the age of 14(13 when he was placed there by Charlotte police )She’s been suspended from her job for excessive tardiness because she’s too drunk to go to work . She’s had a brick thrown in her car for hanging on the wrong side of the tracks.Her 14 year old is in a gang & I fear for my baby’s safety, whether with his mom or his brother . I need a lawyer within my price range, but I will sacrifice to get custody of him.
Seek legal advice, everybody has a right but also a duty as a parent.
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go to court. now days women dont automaticaly get custody. men make great dingle parrents too. try to get some evidence of what she does because just your word wont be acceptable in a custody battle. good luck
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Get a Lawyer and have some Witnesses testify in Court and file for Full Custody.
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Get a lawyer. It sounds like you will more than likely win custody.
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get dirt on her to prove to the court that she is not fit to be a mother. get video with her goin out to party and leaving the kid/s.know sum1 who went through da same thing.He won custody of his kid
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well although it is not ur right to have the son nor her right to have him…it is His right to have her , as in a certain age children need mothers more than father,, i think any court will give u the custdy based on the facts u mentioned after making sure they are genuine…at least that is in my country (i think the law all over the world concerning that matter is the same)
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You do need a lawyer but you also need to hire someone like
a private investigator to get the evidence needed to prove her wrongdoings. As well,he can testify in court as a neutral third party with first-hand knowledge of her activities. Also,if you can get other people to testify as witnesses about her lifestyle this would be good.
No doubt this will cost a lot of money but from the sound
of it your son’s future is at stake. Do what you have to do
for him and good luck. I hope things work out for you.
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I think every one has given you the answer. I just wanted to say that good things do happen to good people. You sound like a good dad, you need to get custody of your son and in the future find a good woman that is compatable with your values. Sounds like the woman your having problems with needs to go to rehab and start steppin’ for your sons sake.
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I think every one has given you the answer. I just wanted to say that good things do happen to good people. You sound like a good dad, you need to get custody of your son and in the future find a good woman that is compatable with your values. Sounds like the woman your having problems with needs to go to rehab and start steppin’ for your sons sake.
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I agree with pretty much everyone here. It just blows my mind everytime I hear about a mother like this. I totally dont understand it. You need a GOOD lawyer. Go with your gut instinct when it comes to a lawyer. If you get any vibe from the lawyer that they are not good find a different one. Speaking from experience. But for the best interest of your child please do not go for the throat. Only bring enough guns out to get custody. Don’t destroy her. She will destroy herself and a relationship with her son on her own. You dont ever want that total lack of a relationship thrown in your face at a later date (maybe by ur son?) Do what you have to do to make sure he is safe. My sisters ex was into drugs.. She got sole custody and he got supervised visits once he was sober. This way she was not “hampering” a relationship with their father yet keeping the kids safe. If he went on a binge visitation ceased. This is also his own doing. If this is something you would be able to do.. No one can say you kept your son from her.. She kept herself from him by not bothering to show up for visitiation. The courts are recognizing more and more the importance of not always going with the mother. Youre already going in the right direction by documenting everything.. KEEP THAT UP… there is nothing better that you could be doing than keeping good documentation of her lack of interest. It will only benefit you! Best of Luck to you and your son.. You sound like a great dad and he is very lucky to have you!!!
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If the child is old enough to tell you that he has seen his mother do any or all of these things, call Child Protective Services, and report her, tell them what the child said to you. Even if he is not old enough to tell you these things, CPS should be your first call. They will be the ones to make her take, and pass a drug test before she can see her son again. If the daycare provider will also call and report the mother for failing to pick him up, or being under the influence when she did, that will also help get the ball rolling for you. If CPS finds a problem with her test results, or what they see when they investigate the matter, they have their own lawywers, which saves you the cost of hiring your own. If you don’t want to get CPS involved, try looking for a pro-bono (free) lawyer, or see if your area has a legal aid service, that will give you a lawyer who’s fees work on a sliding fee according to your income.
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GET A LAWYER IF YOU CANT AFFORD ONE CALL A LEGAL AID THEY PROVIDE LEGAL AID LAWYERS FREE BASED UPON YOUR INCOME…
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then she wasnt ready to be a mother. she need to be thinkin about her child. yeah if i was u i would try to go get full custody.
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Okay, now don’t think I am completely nuts for saying this, but it works wonders…I have given the advice to others who have replied that they didn’t believe it, but it worked.
Offer her unlimitted acces to your son if you can have him full time. Tell her that she can see or talk to him whenever she wants as long as it is within a reasonable time. If she likes to stay away for long periods, get her to see that it would be the ideal situation because she wouldn’t have to worry about picking him up etc. Make it sound good and try to keep the censure out of your voice…just keep thinking of having your son if she agrees to this, and you should be able to keep a smile on your face. I know you may think this odd, but tell her that you will be glad to borrow her money when she needs it.(just don’t put it in writing)
go to your local clerk of courts and ask for a change of visitation/custody form. Write out everything before you approach her, but leave out the money part and tell her that the court wouldn’t approve that but you promise to keep your word. As soon as she signs it and one month passes, she won’t have a chance. To get him back, she will have to prove that YOU are a bad parent and no matter what she says about a mother and son bond etc. will not come in to it. If you are worried about the visitation with her, after she signs it, inform her that the visits have to take place in your home, or a public place that you can go too. She will not be able to fight it at that point because it is so vague in the change form, and again, she would have to take it to court to get you to lean on the issue. I know this all seems very dishonest, but when it comes to the best interest of your child, I think drastic measures are needed. You will not need to pay all the legal fees this way, because it will be a mutual agreement. I think to file with the court it costs around 70.00, but it is worth it.
GOOD LUCK from an experienced mommy who loves all kids.
PS.
My husband also went through the same with his ex…four years ago and we are still going strong.
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