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Why does my boyfriend feel the need to control me??
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You seem to love being a doormat. He seems to be a control freak. Get out of the relationship while you can before you lose your self confidence.
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He needs to understand that you make less money and am not working as many hours as he does. A real man takes care of the bills and his woman and makes sure she eats 3 times a day. B/f’s and jobs come and go…
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No, it’s not right to do that. Nobody deserve to be treated that way, he is mentally abusive to you. Men that have low self esteem do that because it makes them feel better especially if they know that they have control of the reigns.
People may say stand up for yourself, but they can be very scary and not easy. I was able to, the man I was married to was a coward and a wimp. All it took was a nice bruise on my chest and I put him in his place.
I went through nine months of jealousy, name calling, and so on and I suffered a great deal. I finally got the courage to tell a doctor what was going on and he helped me come up with an escape plan.
I don’t know the full situation , but I can tell you this, GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP. He HAS NO RIGHT To control you like that. He has NO RIGHT to hurt you in ANY WAY
Easier said that done, but I will tell you what you will look back and say I am so glad I did it.
IF you are afraid, you can call some domestic violence help lines annonymously or you can report it to a close friend or doctor.
Good luck to you, please, get out of it, it is not worth it.
The guy needs some help and YOU need and deserve something better.
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I would ask tell him that your doing your best. I would ask him why he acts as though thats not good enough for him. I would tell him that some guys out there make 40 bucks a hour and come home to a dirty house and no food on the table or in the fridge, because their wife was out all day goofing off spending all of his money, so hes not in all that shabby of a situation. Ask him what he thinks you can do better, just to see what his answer is. I would remind him that your doing your best and that you cant be perfect and neither can he, point out some of his faults, then remind him that your not throwing them up in his face everytime you turn around. I think hes got a Ego problem about how much he makes and all that but i dont think its to the point where its controling from what you said, I would let him know that his huge ego and swollen head is stressing you out and he needs to “pop it” before you do!
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Men, like me, have this thing where we feel we need to control all situations because we are tired of being controlled by everyone else so we think we can control our girlfriend. I don’t do this on purpose but some men do and that is wrong. the guy your with clearly does and you should dump him
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People always don’t know how good they have it until they lose it all. Leave him and be independent. You’ll be happier.
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stop giving him money and food and EVERYTHING else. who cares how much money he makes? i had an x who said i didn’t do enough. (for his world i guess) so i quit. quit waking his kids up for school quit making b’fast and dinner, quit doing laundry (except my own) quit washing dishes. i quit!
then he realized what i did for him, but i never did anything i used to do for him or his kids. noone respected the way i did things so i did nothing for anyone except ME. i CAN and WILL show you what selfishnes IS.
i ended up getting brand new washer, dryer,stove, micro. everything, but i didn’t use it for ANY of them.
he called me last week (after 5 years being apart) to appologize for treating me badly. he wanted forgiveness so he could move on with his life with a clean slate.
it might take a while for it to sink in, but you could be helping someone else out in the long run.
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Probably so won’t go with anyone else or he probably think you doing wrong and he love you.
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