I have been in a relationship for just over a year…we are going through a lot of problems right now…I don’t feel respected…but I also have no self esteem left to get away from the relationship…he knows this…all I do is worry about us and our problems and somedays I know it’s not worth dealing with but I do love him…today for no apparent reason I started thinking to myself..I need to find a hobby…I can’t think of anything else to do but start exersizing and working on building my self esteem…I am what I consider to be VERY over weight…I am 5’5” and about 240lbs…and I know by doing something about myself I would be less apt to let him walk all over me…if I take a brisk walk every day (30-40 min) drink 6-8 glasses of water, eat smaller portions and work out every other day (things I can do at home, I can afford a gym membership), cut out junk food (seems to be the only thing thats makes me happy anymore) will I lose weight or am I wasting my time doing it by myself?