If you were in love with a women who treated you very well, was cute and funny, and loved you to no end, would you still put your ex wife before her? Not the children, but the ex.
i have been in situations in which I could hardly pay my rent. My guy was living with me, and it was like pulling teeth to get money from him. He gave me a certian amount every mo. but there were times i needed more. Let me make this clear, he makes about $23.00/hr. He is not broke. He pays 190.00/wk in child support. He also gives his kids extra money when they ask. If they need clothes or hair cuts etc. he pays. His ex has a job, gets food assistance, and the child support. I have suspected he paid her rent several times. She bought a BRAND NEW car, and I think he helps her with that too. His kids should not go w/out .i understand that. but hes does all he can for them, and then gives her money for bills and stuff, when he won’t even help me out.
He tells me it is for the kids. I dont think so.
The reason for the divorce was that she often created relationships on line with other men, and she down right treated him like crap. He filed for divorce after she said she wanted one. Then she changed her mind, but he still wanted to. Most of what he does is for his kids, and that is fine. But when she says jump and he says how high there is something wrong. Point is I refuse to be the “warm bun for a lonely hot dog”.
By the way, maybe it just makes me mad that she doesn’t take more responibilty to take care of her kids. She is a decent mom, and if he would stop doing everything for her she would figure out how to do it herself. I am divorced, i have 2 kids, i ask their father for the minimal. He pays half of their medical, daycare costs, etc. I think it should be 50/50. I would never ask my ex to pay my rent or car payment. But when my boyfriend is living with me and i need extra help with household bills, he should be the one responsible.