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Why is my mother this color?

Why are white people “white”, why are black people “black”, asians their color, mexicans their color and so on? I know that it has to do with pigmentation, and genetics. But dont those genes come from their parents. Their DNA is what makes them right? Because way back hundreds of thousands of years ago people had to survive. Because when you survive like Lions, cheetahs, deer, impalas, shark, squids do; you past along your survival techniques like lions pass on their stealth, cheetahs swiftness, sharks bite.

They all had to eat, they all sought ways to survive whether it was in severe coldness (where the whites clearly became white because of survival reason) blacks started out in Africa in the hot ass Sun.

Diet may have something to do with it. Are we people like Germans, Irish, Italians, Jews, Neo-Nazis, Black Panthers, KKK, Americans, Muslims, Bin Laden, Bush, Saddam Hussein really related?
Obviously sexual intercourse is a way to survive because you want yourself to go on. This is our little cheating way of living forever. I mean we’re all made up the same way on the inside. It’s just our hair color/texture, eye color, skin color texture that makes us different.

Of course some of us have different genes like Really tough skin living with the Eskimos, or really tall or really short. This comes from evolution. Evolution is only our skills of keeping us alive. Our fathers passed it on 2 us so we could have some ways to survive naturally.
So we all obviously are connected, except some tribes went different routes. If you think about it all White people com from the North. U.K. Germany, Ireland, Norway. Why are they white? because their ancestors stayed up their thousands and thousands of years ago. Their skin had to evolve so that they could survive. It stayed in their genes so their children could survive. Just like blacks. That’s why they’re so dark. That happens to yah when you stay in the sun that long. Most Australians are white right? Because they all were prisoners shipped their from England. But if they had originated their like their aborigines, they would be the same color of the aborigines. Just like the the peoples in South America.

How could this be acceptable in Asian culture? Or any culture at all?

I’m surprised that I’m actually more hurt than I thought I would be. My fiance and I have been together for a year. Marriage plans have been discussed although no wedding date is fixed yet; as a matter of fact I’m still considering getting a scholarship to do 1-2 years of postgraduate studies abroad prior to marriage so that I have a chance to fulfill my potential and pick up life skills that will be essential for the survival of our marriage. We’ve been good friends for 7 years and I know that this is the man I want to share my life with till we grow old. Family-wise, my fiance and I have been around each other’s parents for almost as long as we’ve been a couple. My parents love my fiance and my fiance loves them; I love his parents and his parents love me.

My parents thought that my 25th birthday would be the perfect opportunity to invite his family for dinner to get properly introduced.

Before this, only my his mom got introduced to my mom, but this wasn’t planned. His mom needed a ride when my fiance and I had an appointment with my parents, so since it was in the same direction and the car is mine, I insisted that she come with us to where we were supposed to be. Even so, she didn’t leave the car, so my mom took the initiative to come greet her.

Anyway, I just found out this afternoon that my fiance’s parents are not coming to dinner. Although I had a feeling that it would have turned out this way, I strangely feel really hurt that they’re not coming. What did we do wrong? Was it dumb of us to invite them in the first place? Should we, as the female’s family, have waited for the male’s family to take the initiative? Or are we simply not worth freeing a Saturday night for over what we think would be a nice dinner in town?

The fact that my mom feels insulted isn’t helping. Isn’t it a given that when you’re invited to dinner you’re supposed to come; and when you don’t, it’s a sign that you don’t want to have anything to do with the person who invited you? And since they’re rejecting our invitation, at this moment I really can’t see how one day my fiance’s family would ever invite us over to finally get introduced; they rejected us, so why would they swallow their pride and do it back to us one day?

My fiance is the most gentle and courteous man I’ve ever known, and treats me with the utmost respect; so it simply never occurred to me that his parents could be this rude to us. How could this be tolerated in Asian culture? What does this say about my future relationship with his family, and with him? I don’t want to hold grudges against my fiance’s parents, but a part of me strongly wants them to know that what they did was not OK; what can I do? When my fiance and I marry, what can I do so that issues like this don’t become hazardous to our relationship? Because I would really hate to have to criticize my spouse’s parents and make him feel as if he has to choose between his parents or his wife.

For the sake of being specific, we are Indonesians.
My fiance and I live with our own families, which is common practice here in Indonesia well into a person’s thirties and beyond (because starting salaries are seldom good enough to afford one’s own place). My fiance’s mother would have loved to come to dinner, but isn’t because her husband is unwilling. My fiance’s father refused to come for no reason, and my fiance has done everything he could to convince him to come.

How can I improve my sense of direction?

I’m a young driver and I have a really bad sense of direction. (It’s not that I’m stupid– After all, I do get straight A’s in school. LOL) I get lost and I’m extremely scared that when I start driving totally alone that I won’t be able to find my way home! Even when one of my parents is with me I usually can’t remember how to get home. This is really depressing me since it’s a basic skill everyone should have and needs for survival. I don’t want a GPS. I want to learn how to rely on myself for this. How can I improve my sense of direction and help myself remember directions? Any tips or advice?

Why can’t us teens fend for ourselves?

I’m 14 and I want to get out of my parents house and fend for myself in the Jungle. Where can I find a survivalist to help me learn to build a log cabin, nuclear power plant, playstation?

What type of parents did you have growing up and how does it effect your parenting skills?

IMy dad is a soldier and my mom is a hippie but most of my survival and social skills came from my dad.and my nurturing and skills as an artist came from my mom. We ate tofu and sang folk songs after we detailed the bathrooms and organized our rooms.