In a dead marriage, I was diagnosed with PTSD and husband walked away from me. He said he couldn’t help me. He hasn’t talked or touched me in over 3 years, married 25 years. I did get therapy for the PTSD but it never really goes away. I want a divorce but have lots of CC debt. Sometimes I want to walk away, but I have awesome 15 year old doing very well in school. Husband likes to spend lots of money. I shredded all CC and closed them. I pay all bills and sometimes I dream of taking a long extended trip to Hawaii or Florida or go hiking in a jungle where I will have to learn my own survival skills. I have always worked. All of my 401K that was cashed in went into joint checking account to pay down bills. Husband won’t cash his huge 401K amount in to split and pay off bills so we can divorce. He does give me majority of his paycheck to pay bills. Next time I won’t ask for divorce I will have papers served to him. In mean time, I am not sure how I can manage things until my teenager graduates from High School which is in 3 more years.
I walk at park, often to relieve stress. I don’t have much appetite. I have not let myself go. Have three great dogs we have rescued and fostered, they help. I do most of the work around the house. Maybe I need a kick in the butt to straighten myself out. I am not on any medications, no major health issues and yet…
The PTSD was from a very bad accident which I was “deemed” not at fault. My husband refuses to seek counseling because he said there is nothing wrong with him. I have called around to a couple of divorce attorneys and they charge anywhere from $200 to $400 per hour which is absolutely outrageous. I went on-line to look at doing my own divorce papers and they seemed intense. My teenager loves my husband very much.
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